Book Recommendation: The Courage to Be Disliked
Book Name: The Courage to Be Disliked
Author: Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
ISBN: 9781501197277
Have you ever felt like people cannot change, that your past has determined the future? Has it stripped your courage? You might want to take a read on The Courage to Be Disliked.
The book gave insights into self-empowerment and personal growth. Through an engaging dialogue, it challenged conventional thinking and encouraged readers to embrace courage in the face of criticism. It delved into the importance of self-acceptance, resilience, and the ability to break free from societal expectations. By reading this book, readers may gain a fresh perspective on overcoming obstacles, fostering positive change, and staying true to oneself, so as to rediscover the power of change from within.
Here are some points for you to get a taste of the experience and thought-provoking ideas the author presented in the book.
… life just seems complicated because I make it complicated.It's not the world that's complex, it's you who made the world complicated.
Our emotional responses to events, whether significant or trivial, largely depends on how we interpret the experiences we go through. Sometimes, the impact of an event on us may be minimal, yet we react excessively, hence our discomfort. Our attitudes towards events can alter our interpretation of the world.
If we focus only on past causes and try to explain things solely through cause and effect, we end up with ‘determinism’.
‘Determinism’ and ‘teleology’ are two different theories that can explain our behaviour. Teleology argues that all actions have a purpose, with our behaviour being driven by goals; determinism, on the other hand, asserts that our present and future actions are influenced and determined by past or present experiences.
No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure.
Some people may give up on trying because they have failed before. While these experiences or events do have an impact on us, we should not attribute an inevitable cause-and-effect relationship to specific situations. We should not process our lives by assigning a certain meaning to past experiences.
People can change, but the first step towards change is to 'know'. This self-awareness and cognition form the crucial foundation for real change and goals, guiding us to explore ourselves, understand our values and beliefs, and set plans and objectives for future growth.
To achieve personal growth and transformation, we must first know and accept ourselves.
May you have tranquillity to face the things you cannot change;
May you have the courage to change the things you can;
May you have the wisdom to discern the difference between the two.
*Disclaimer: The content of this article and the recommended books do not represent the stance of the organisation.
